You are worth more than rubies.
A wife of Noble Character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.Proverbs 31:10
We were having a purple chair evening and each child had their turn in the purple chair. When we started talking to our daughter, we found ourselves venturing into new territory – High School, boys, dating, grades, sports, focus and expectations.
As all of that swirled around in my brain and mixed with my own past, I felt the sudden urge to tell her, “You are worth more than rubies!”
Throughout our conversation, I must’ve said it at least three times. When she was leaving to go to bed my heart was pounding and I felt desperate as I kissed her forehead and looked into her eyes again and proclaimed slowly, “You are worth more than rubies!”
She smiled and looked back at me and said, “Then remind me of that everyday.”
I laid in bed unable to sleep thinking about that statement. I looked up the verse in the bible and found it in Proverbs 31, and it hit me. The bullets started firing:
- Do I believe I am worth more than rubies?
- Do I really?
- Have I ever believed it?
- What kind of example have I been to her?
- How has my brokenness affected her?
- How have my insecurities harmed her thinking?
- Am I worth more than rubies?
- Do I live like I am worth more than rubies?
- What does she see when she looks at me?
I struggled that night, and I prayed. I wrestled with those thoughts. I read Proverbs 31 again. The mom was telling her son that “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth more than rubies.”
The mom was describing a wife of noble character to her son, but I wondered would that wife think she was worth more than rubies? Would that wife truly know her worth?
On my wedding day, I had the dress, the jewelry and the updo, but I can assure you I did not feel like I was worth anything. I simply felt lucky and blessed to be getting married. Thinking back, I realized instead of feeling like a princess, I felt unworthy.
I continued to roll over in regrets and I tossed and turned with sadness. I felt guilty, like I had really blown it as a mom.
And then I drew a line in the sand.
It’s too late to change yesterday and all the years gone by, but tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow is a chance to start fresh. Every day is a new day to declare and believe that I am worth more than rubies.
Sure, I can tell my daughter everyday that she is worth more than rubies, but I can also live it and model it for her.
I can live in the truth of my identity in Christ.
If I am going to pass anything on to my daughter, I want to give her my crown and not any of my baggage, insecurities or generational strongholds.Tweet
I can wear the crown and be the princess God created me to be.
I can believe I am worth more than rubies, and I can live like I am worth more than rubies. She is watching me. I want her to see her worth.
She is worth more than rubies.
You are worth more than rubies.
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I can so identify with that questioning of yourself, Michelle. It’s so much easier to encourage someone else of their worth than to believe it of ourselves, isn’t it? I’m so grateful God is continuing to heal the deep layers in us and helping us to believe our identity is in Him, not in our painful pasts. Love and blessings to you!
I agree with Trudy. It’s always so much easier to encourage other people in their worth than to really believe it ourselves! I love your desire both to speak that truth to your daughter and to live it out. When I was at a church weekend in June we were asked to write encouragements for others and one that someone wrote for me was about being worth more than rubies. I definitely need to take hold of this more so I’m sure your series will be helpful!
So much of my truth lies within your words! Thank you for sharing your questions and your wisdom! I look forward to reading more!